Soft Breast Tissue: The Myths and the Masterpiece of Breasts That Are Not Perky

March 8th, 2018 @ Amber

Art by: Ellie Beanz Art via Etsy

My breasts have never been perky. Never. Not once. Not during puberty, and not even as a teenager and into my early 20s when breasts are known to be at their most HG. So all of the people who like to use  photos of black women in National Geographic as “evidence” for a lack of bras being to blame for their breast sagging, I have news for you. Take a seat. My breasts have always had a slight form of ptosis (the medical term for sagging) from the very beginning. Full on top breasts, with soft breast tissue. I have heavy breasts, I mean, they aren’t cantaloupe heavy or anything, but they’re weighty in the hand for sure. They’re decently large (currently I wear a 32FF/G in UK sizing), and I am now nearing my mid-30s in age. Add in fluctuating weight over the years, and that completes the entire one woman show that is my boobs. I now have breasts with moderate sagging, soft tissue and a lack of fullness due to weight ups and downs throughout my adult life. It’s hard to look at my breasts naked and not feel a little let down by mother nature, at least a little bit. I’m glad to have them, all breasts are good breasts. It’s taken me a long time to try and un-brainwash myself from society’s misogynistic beauty ideals for women, and I’ve gotten to the point where my breasts and I are on okay terms. We might never be best friends, but we’re pretty tight. We’ve been through a lot together. I was a late bloomer, and didn’t have much bust until I turned 15 though even then I was definitely wearing the wrong bra size, squeezing into a 36C, which offered no support due to a way too large band and a too small cup. However, this was the late 90s, and if bra fittings and bra sizing are still a thing of mystery now, then they were legend and folklore back then. I remember some of my friends in high school being jealous of my breast size, often saying how lucky I was, but honestly, I was jealous that they could go braless, and that their boobs were reaching frantically upward for the sky, not like a pair of squashy birds flying south for the winter. I never had those perky boobs that they show in magazine ads, with dense tissue that keeps its shape no matter what position you’re lying down in. When I lie down in bed, my breasts are like, Girl Bye! And thats okay. I’m not complaining to you about it. They’ve always been that way.

They are also smooth and pillowy, and they are bouncy and fun to grab when I’m feeling sick or am trying to fall asleep. They are comforting. They are mine. They are sexy and look nice when I’m feeling myself and checking them out in a mirror, too. I’ve also never had any complaints from any partners. I just find that we don’t hear much about my type of breasts in the media. Let alone see them. Soft boobies, not dense ones. Saggy boobs, not the perky ones that stand up on their own. Boobs that can melt into whatever shape bra cup you give them. If breasts be “cones”, well then, mine are surely melting on a hot July day. I don’t say these things as negativity, just facts. My boobs are my boobs, and I’m fine with them. The problem is, by not seeing saggy or soft tissue breasts in the mainstream, it clouds both men and womens views of them and thus stigmatizes them.

You know what I’m talking about. A billion meme’s joking about “saggy tits”, women sharing their results of “passing” the pencil test, men talking about a natural breasted model and saying her breasts are “saggy” when they are not even close to falling below the inframammary fold. We’ve been brainwashed to think that any boobs that are not small and perky are therefore saggy and undesirable. And I’m over here like some soft breasted Inigo Montoya thinking, “Saggy. You keep using that word, I don’t think it means what you think it means”. And that is where the problem lies, in the body negativity of breasts that don’t fit the ideal. Which means we have a whole untapped part of body positivity to talk about. Not just breast size, but breast condition and shape. I don’t care what anyone thinks about my boobs. Lovers, friends, strangers on the internet, etc. If you don’t like my boobs, well then, you don’t deserve to see them or touch them or even talk about them. My body wasn’t designed by me, and I’m not going to tear apart the art that is who I am. Whatever you think of boobs like mine, you’re never going to convince me that my boobs aren’t sexy, or are somehow “less than” their perky firm counterparts. I didn’t choose the soft boob life, the soft boob life chose me.

Soft breast tissue is normal. Not all breasts are dense. Soft breast tissue is all good, and just as amazing as firmer breast tissue. What determines if breasts are soft or dense, anyway? Who knows for sure really. Well, half of it is genetics. If your mom or grandmother had soft tissue, chances are, you probably do too.  The other half could be a variety of things, including breast shape, weight gain or weight loss, hormones, breast size or even skin elasticity, or chest muscle wall strength. Who cares why though? You’ve got those soft boobies, and you should rock them without shame or fear. All boobs are normal. All boobs are good boobs. All boobs are beautiful. Boobs can do all sorts of amazing things besides looking awesome too, like feed human babies and make milk. Best part is, there is no prerequisite for boobs to do all of the magical things that they were made to do. You don’t have to have perky breasts to breastfeed, you don’t have to have firm breast tissue to pump milk and nourish a child. That is extra AF. Boobs can also make for great hand warmers, and they can make a wonderful pillow for someone you love. They can provide padding if you get hit in the chest by a rogue basketball, they can also create some gorgeous cleavage and make a little black dress pop and sizzle!

PrimaDonna Bag Bang Bra almost offers a minimizing effect and pulls breasts front and center, encasing the tissue.

But the matter of the fact is, in the media and in society, not all breasts are treated equal. Usually, and especially in the fashion and advertising world, models with firm (usually small) perky breasts are the end all be all. It’s all we get to see. Or we see the alternative, which is overtly surgically enhanced breasts in mainstream porn, aimed to appease the male gaze. Which is why I am so thankful for small indie and handmade brands like Uye Surana, Playful Promises and Scantilly that share customer photos or lookbook photos of women wearing their designs that might not fit the typical “breast fit model” ideal. It is a great start, but really, we probably won’t ever get to see lingerie models with soft breast tissue modeling for ad campaigns for big companies. Because of this, women with soft breast tissue/sagging breasts might not know how a bra will look on them, or how it will fit on their bust. I know I often see some of the sexiest bras and fun designs, only to wonder if it will look okay on softer breasts. It makes buying bras online an even more daunting task when your breasts have more jiggly and wiggly than most bras can handle. I don’t think they’re ready for this jelly, and really, they should be.

Which is why I am thankful for brands like Ewa Michalak, which specifically makes bra designs for soft breasts, asymmetrical breasts, etc. While I love rocking a bra from Scantilly or Adina Reay, I know for certain that Ewa Michalak is a safe buying option for me. While it doesn’t stop me from making lingerie purchases that I really like, a bra’s shape and construction does cause me to pause before purchasing. Like, open cup bras? I love them so much. I have maybe three of them. I would probably have at least 10 of them, but, basically my boobs just fall right out of them. Breast waterfall. Boobage everywhere. Nary any support in sight, and therefore, since my breasts don’t just hold themselves up magically like some awesome boobs do, that stops me from buying certain bras I would normally love to buy. I find ways around this of course, finding pieces like the awesome Playful Promises Peek a Boo Miranda Bra, which offers an open nipple area for an erotic and sensual look, while still working for soft breast tissue due to the mesh cups. Work with what you have!

Tutti Rouge Jessica Bra, the “tutti booster” cookies inside offer added lift, and the stretch material of the bra helps ensure no overspill.

So whats a soft tissue boobied gal to do? First off, forget the rules. Wear what you want. However, if you would like a few tips for how to support boobs that are softer, then I have a few tips for you. I often do whatever I can to make sure my bust is extra supported. I usually do not wear bralettes. Underwires are my best friends. I stick with a handful of brands that I know work well with my breasts and make me feel good, and often usually buy bras from those brands only. It’s like a fanclub for my boobs and these bra brands are my biggest fans, cause they keep coming out with designs that seem to be made for my boobs. So I’ve put together a small list of brands and tips and tricks to try if you too, like me, are the owner of a set of squishy boobs.

  1. If you can’t shop in person and try a bra on, consider a bra’s cut and design, consider the materials used. Does the bra have stretch lace? Good. Thats a great option for soft tissue breasts. Does a bra have a super plunge design? This may or may not create some serious spillage. Does a bra have a strappy detail? Prepare for your strappy design to press into your breast tissue perhaps even creating quad-boob. But hey, that doesn’t stop me from buying them! So go with what you like, but remember to pay attention to the detail of bra construction and materials used.
  2. You could also consider bra inserts like Cupcakes from Commando, which can add fullness, sometimes offering a firmer look to breasts. You slip them into your bra, like the old school “chicken cutlets”, but better. The added oomph they give to your bust can boost your breasts up a bit, make cleavage and give breast tissue a firmer appearance, and even help adjust asymmetry.
  3. Try many different brands. Test different brands out (remember you might not be the same bra size in every bra brand, since every brand uses a different fit model, so your size will vary from brand to brand). Find the brands that you feel work best with your bust. Remember those brands and buy from them often, this will take the guess-work out of knowing which bra brands work with your bust and which ones end up not offering you enough support or offer shapes that you don’t like. It will save a lot of time and tears if you pay attention to the brands that work best for you, and go to those brands first when bra shopping. Also, make sure you’re wearing your proper bra size in that brand, the right bra size will do wonders for your breasts and might stop you from having to deal with cups that runneth over.
  4. Wear whatever the fuck you want. These are not rules, simply a few guiding ideas. If you want a open cup bra regardless of the lack of support? Get it. If you want a bralette despite there being no underwire? Go on, girl. Braless? Go ahead then! Let’s normalize saggy breasts in public! Go rock your low cut bodysuit sans bra, or rock a cute vintage dress, letting your boobs hang as low as the sunset. Why not? You look good, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. We’ve become accustomed to judging breasts, even commenting when we notice a woman going braless, let alone a woman with soft saggy breasts going braless. Be the change. Go forth and sag, my love. You can wear anything you want, no matter if your boobs are dense or not. Just remember that certain bras will look different on different breast tissue, and just because a bra doesn’t look on you like it does on the model, doesn’t mean a thing! No ones boobs are the same, regardless of breast tissue type, so try not to compare how a bra looks like on your breast tissue than it does on the model. Different is okay. It’s all about what makes you feel good!

A few brands that I find myself wearing often are: Curvy Kate, Tutti Rouge, Ewa Michalak, Playful Promises, Claudette (even though the brand is defunct, you can try and find some of their bras on Ebay or at a few online lingerie shops!), Empreinte, and Comexim. There are a few others that I wear a lot, but not necessarily because they work especially well with softer breast tissue, but I buy them because I like them, such as Mimi Holliday, AP, Freya, etc.

Ewa Michalak SM Tattoo Bra, notice how there is no over spill, and the top of the bra cups are sitting flush against my breasts.

If you have softer breast tissue I can’t recommend Ewa Michalak enough. This Polish brand is among the best for soft breast tissue, asymmetrical breasts and breasts lacking fullness. Ewa is the OG. Ewa Michalak bras are the HG of bras for soft breast tissue. I know I know, you have to order overseas, but some shops in the US, UK and Canada carry the brand in store or online, such as the boutique Zathiya Lingerie. I have always found the customer service with the Ewa Michalak’s official online shop to be good and haven’t had any problems. If you try one brand on this list, make it this one! I cannot stress this enough. No, I’m not being paid by the brand, this is not a sponsored post, the bras are just magic for soft breast tissue. Some styles more than others, including the S, SM, and a few other shapes from the brand.

Comexim Dotty Bra, notice that the lightly padded cups offer support while also encasing my tissue without overspill.

I have also found great support in Tutti Rouge, especially their Jessica bra. Curvy Kate, check out the Ellace bra. Playful Promises, many of their bras have worked well for me. Claudette Dessous mesh bras. Most of the unlined bras from Empreinte, and even the French brand PrimaDonna. Comexim is a fellow Polish brand like Ewa Michalak, and their bras are great too.

The bottom line is, soft breast tissue can be hard to fit, but it’s not impossible. Just remember to love those boobs, girl – regardless of whether they’re firm or squishy.


Do you have soft breast tissue or sagging? What bras work best for you? Share your experiences in the comments below!

2 Comments » in “Soft Breast Tissue: The Myths and the Masterpiece of Breasts That Are Not Perky”


9.03.2018 21:01

I have finally in my 40s accepted my soft breast tissue, that said, I love playful promises and my cheap (under 40 dollars and usually on sale bra) that is my daily wear bra is the sweet revenge bra from paramour, that comes in 40 dd cup with a nice firm band and wide straps and still feels secy. I dislike plain bras, so I have this in a ton of colorways.


9.03.2018 22:12

Hi Danielle! I’m so glad you’ve found bras that work well for you. I love Playful Promises as well, and I also get really bored with plain bras. I love lace, embroidery, prints, and color! You are now the second person to recommend the Sweet Revenge Bra to me, I will have to add it to my list to try. Thanks for commenting!

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