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Panache Lingerie Find Your Fit Campaign

October 12th, 2017 @ Amber

Panache Lingerie has started a new campaign called Find Your Fit, and it’s all about making you feel the most comfortable in a bra that supports you, makes you feel wonderful, in a design you love, and ways to ensure you find the fit that makes you feel fabulous. The campaign is meant to encourage women to get fitted for a bra and to do so in the most comfortable and easy way for you. The campaign offers resources to find boutiques and places locally where you can get a bra fitting. Once you’ve been fitted and found the fit that works best for you, you can hashtag #FoundMyFit on social media like Instagram and share a photo of your bra and share a caption about how you found your fit and how it makes you feel. You can also enter to win a Panache Lingerie wardrobe by sharing your fit story!

With Panache it’s easy to find your fit if you’re full bust, because they offer so many beautiful collections. Cleo by Panache offers more fresh and youthful styles for young women or women who are young at heart. Panache Black offers a slightly sophisticated and luxury look, while the regular Panache line features wonderful basics along with beautiful sets that are both padded and unlined. Sculptresse is ideal for the plus sized woman who loves stylish bras, and Panache Sport is known for their awesome underwired sports bras. They even offer underwired bikinis and swimwear with Panache Swim. I’ve found my fit for years with this awesome company, and hope you will too!

I #FoundMyFit with one of my favorite Panache styles, which is the Breeze Longline bra from the Cleo by Panache line. It’s floral and bright and lightly padded and comes in a variety of prints. I also found my fit with the Cleo by Panache Skye, with it’s unlined and soft material and cute light purple color.

I’ve also recently added a few other favorites to my collection including the Piper longline bra, along with the classic Panache Ava set. Next up on my list? Loving the brand new red colorway of the fan-favorite Clara! What are your favorite Panache styles? Have you found your fit yet? Share your experience below!

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The Anxious Girl’s Guide to Anxiety + Resources

October 12th, 2017 @ Amber

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It was just Mental Health Awareness Day. I think it’s really important to talk about mental health, because there is still so much stigma and taboo about the subject. Which is absolutely wrong, because we all have mental health, some just have illnesses due to their mental health and others have good mental halth without any sort of problems. No matter which of these you fall into, it’s okay! It okay to be okay, and it’s okay not to be okay. But if you’re not okay, as someone who has lived with mental health issues since they were young, it’s important to remember that help is out there. Even if we sometimes don’t feel like it is. It’s very lonely when you live with a mental illness. I myself live with clinical OCD (not the quirky label everyone loves to toss on anyone with a good sense of organization), C-PTSD, PTSD, and Anxiety/Panic Disorder, as well as I have also dealt with Agoraphobia throughout my life.

My post for today is about anxiety disorder and panic disorder. Two things I deal with daily. Sometimes I wish there were a handbook or manual for maneuvering through life when you have clinical anxiety, but since thats not how life works, I’ve complied a list of tips and tricks from me to you. This is a re-post from an anxiety blog I had started on the side called ‘Waves of Drain’, but then I never did much with it. I thought the post deserved to be seen though, so I’m publishing it here on my main blog.

If you need a few tips and tricks for dealing with your anxiety, here are just a few resources that have been helpful for me in one way or another.

Smartphone Apps (iPhone and Android compatible)
– Mindshift

This app is free and cool! It has inspiration quotes about fear, an explanation of anxiety disorders and the ins and outs of what happens when we panic. It also offers a anxiety checklist and journaling area to write down your thoughts when you’re anxious. It also has mindful exercises that you can listen to, which help with breathing exercises and calming exercises.

Other apps and games, such as Coloring Pages, Interactive games like Sims or Candy Crush or Oregon Trail, games that use concentration such as mystery games like Agent Alice. Basically any app that you can open up and keep your mind busy. I also may or may not play Smurfs The Lost Village app…ahem. Great way to keep your mind active though.

Music
– Make a playlist of your favorite calming songs

Make yourself a playlist of songs on your computer or phone or tablet, give it a fun name like “Songs for When I Feel Whack” or “Anxiety Sucks” or “Music to Calm Me”. Fill it full of songs that you enjoy that make you feel good. Maybe some relaxing tunes like classical or opera, baby music or calming nature sound tracks, some softer music, anything that will take your mind off of your worries and help you to unwind. Add some of your favorite songs that you know by heart, so you can sing along and keep your mind distracted. Apps like iTunes, Spotify and Pandora are some free and easy music apps to try.

Audiobooks
– Audible, iTunes, Scribd

Sign up for a audiobook program like Audible or Scribd, they usually have a free-trial that allows you to test it out and see how you like the program. Find books that you find calming, and listen! Having a story read to you while you just lay back and relax can be calming. I do this a lot when I’m waiting for my anxiety attack to CTFD (calm the fuck down). A lot of times you can stream them or download the audiobooks. Or, you can buy audiobooks through iTunes and buy titles whenever you like rather than having a subscription service so they’re read when you need them. Let them play as you fall asleep. Don’t want them on your phone? Stream or play your audiobooks from your laptop or ipod.

Netflix/Prime/Hulu
Binge the hell out of some tv shows or movies

Having a subscription service comes in handy when you’re of the anxious variety. There is so much to choose from, and a lot of times there are full seasons of tv shows, and new movies added all of the time. Having access to watching things can keep your mind busy when you need it to be. Also, with a service like this you can watch it anywhere – from your smartphone, Apple or Amazon Fire TV, or on your Kindle Fire or iPad. If you already pay for cable service, you can often find apps that offer free movies and tv too, such as FX Now, TBS, TNT. Or if you have premium channels on your cable subscription, you can download the apps like Showtime and HBO Go to your device for easy watching on the go, or even while in bed.

The Anxiety Coach
– My favorite anxiety source

I was super anxious one night and feeling at the end of my very short (and quickly fraying) rope, so I googled for anxiety attack help, and I found Dave’s website, Anxiety Coach. He’s worked with many people who have anxiety. He explains anxiety, OCD, and other mental health issues in the anxiety disorder umbrella. He even has a book you can order! I have it, and it’s been a good read and helpful. He also has a YouTube channel with a very helpful video showing how to do deep belly breathing exercises for anxiety/panic attacks. Bookmark his page! It’s a great source.

Someone to Talk To
– This might be hard for some people, which makes me sad, but it’s important.

Therapy is important. Find a therapist or psychologist in your area. Sometimes the process of signing up can be annoying, sometimes they even make you do a “screener” process before making an appointment. Don’t get discouraged! Stick to it. Talking and letting it all out will help you. Make sure you find a mental health professional who has expertise in anxiety. If you have problem with kidney stones, you go to a urologist not a foot doctor. So when you have anxiety, you need to go to a mental health doctor who understands and treats anxiety as a specialty.

It’s also helpful to have friends or family you can confide in. A support system can be hard to find. Those who don’t suffer with anxiety can have a hard time understanding it. It’s a process. As much as your anxiety might confuse you, it can confuse others too. Give them some time, but educate them and share resources. Talk to them, make yourself heard. Whether it is a close friend or family member, being able to share your feelings with a someone in your life can really be helpful.

If you don’t have anyone in your life who you can talk to. Reach out online! There are anxiety forums, and mental health forums online. There are also anxiety blogs you can read online, as well as anxiety groups you can attend in person in your area. You can also find helpful spots online like on Instagram. One of my favorite Instagram pages Naked with Anxiety is run by Danielle, and she suffers from anxiety herself and she posts a lot of great uplifting and helpful reminders as well as her own stories. A lot of her followers have anxiety, so you can talk with others through comments as well.

Hugs
– I send you a big fat comforting hug, but you need a in-person hug too

If you’re feeling anxious hugging for 20-30 seconds helps to release the hormone oxytocin, which is a natural chemical in our body that creates feelings of calm and love and safety. Hug someone you love and allow your body to relax, just be in the moment of the hug, and see if you feel any better after a nice long embrace. Some people don’t like being touch when they are panicking, I myself don’t like being touch when I am having an anxiety attack, but when I am just feeling anxiety and stressed, a huge really can help.

Use All of your Senses
– Utilize your senses. aromatherapy, weighted blankets, etc.

Sensory therapy is great when you deal with anxiety based disorders. Try some silly putty, kinetic sand or slime to play with. Light some candles that smell good to you, check for fragrances that use scent notes that can be calming like peppermint, lavender, citrus, and more. I really like the fragrance oil called 31 by Swiss Just. It is calming to smell, and can also help with a headache of nausea. I often add a few drops to some tissue or paper towel and sniff away. Add your favorite bath bomb to the tub and sit on the edge and just soak your feet (or use a plastic container with a towel underneath and soak your feet anywhere, in the living room, kitchen, etc). Have a favorite pair of pajamas, or robe? Wear it! Change clothes and put on something that comforts you like a favorite sweater or your fav t-shirt. Weighted blankets are a great way to feel hugged or wrapped up. Though sometimes with anxiety, some people don’t like to be touched and the thought of being weighed down is more triggering than anything else. So go with what makes you feel most comfortable. Try a fidget spinner or puzzle, anything that might distract you. 

Art Therapy
Drawing, coloring, writing music, playing piano, etc.

Art has been considered a great type of therapy for years and years. Creating and making something allows you to express how you’re feeling, and can captivate your mind with the power of creation. Write a poem, get some colored pencils and a coloring book. Try some finger paints or acrylic paints and a sketchpad. If you’re musical, play piano or guitar, write a song. Write a short story. Make friendship bracelets, learn to cross stitch or learn embroidery. Use your sewing machine. Just create something using your hands or your mind. It’s a great way to express yourself and get out some of the stressful or anxious feelings, and also, you’ve added a piece of art to the world. I’m a firm believer that artists tend to feel things deeper, and in this most of my favorite artists had mental illnesses of some sort. Make some art, no matter what your skill level may be. 

Commune with Nature
– Take a walk, sit on your porch, play with your dog in the backyard.

Being in nature makes me feel so much better when I’m anxious. Also, exercise even from walking can help to regulate your breathing, lower your blood pressure, and release endorphins to relax you and make you feel better spiritually and mentally. Take a walk around the block, grab a bike and head to the park, just hang out in your backyard and take in the smell of the grass, look at the flowers. Play catch with your dog, go to the lake, go to the beach, feel the sand between your toes. Go for a hike with a friend. Anything that gets you outside in the fresh air is a good idea.

Medication
– If you need it, you need it. No shame.

Some people choose to use anti-depressants which can help with anxiety. I myself cannot use anti-depressants due to almost dying from a rare but series reaction that can come from taking an anti-depressant for the first time or having your dose increased. However, if these medications work for you, then please don’t feel shame for using them. Everyone needs help sometimes, and sometimes what our brains need is some help in the form of a medication. There are also homeopathic medications you can try like over the counter supplements that are aimed that relaxation. There are also a type of medician called benzodiazepines. Also known as benzos. These medications are used for anxiety and panic attacks (you’ve probably heard their brand names, Xanax, Valium, Ativan, etc). I use them. No shame. If I didn’t have the chance to take these medications as I need them, I would probably end up in the ER a lot from having such bad panic attacks. While you won’t want to use them all the time, they aren’t like an anti-depressant where they work over time and are taken regularly, they can be very useful in times of great anxiety or during a panic attack. If you’re curious about seeing if these medications help, ask your doctor or psychiatrist about trying them. I know a lot of people who love to tell people what they should and should not do, so some folks don’t believe in taking medications or benzos, and to them I say, that is your choice and kindly take a seat. You do not make that choice for other people. You should never ever police what is best for someone else’s health, be it mental or physical. And sometimes what is better for someone else is to take medication and to not be judged for it.

Watch this Gif
– Check out this gif that someone made for those with anxiety

This gif is great for watching while you do a  breathing exercise. Inhale slowly through your nose as the graphic opens up, and then exhale slowly through your mouth as the graphic folds down. Keep doing this in reps until you feel yourself become calmer. It’s a easy way to work on breathing exercises without having to count, and it gives an added visual which can be helpful. Save the gif to your computer or ipad or phone or bookmark the gif to your favorites so you can find it whenever you need it.

Food & Exercise & Sleep, oh my!
– All important physical things that can affect us mentally

Make sure you get a full nights sleep. If you can’t fall asleep, don’t stress over it. Just let your body give into sleep. Try some soft music, rock yourself gently in bed, snuggle with your favorite pillow. If you know you have trouble falling asleep, try going to bed a little earlier than usual so you have enough time to fall asleep. Having a good nights rest lets our mind relax and calm down after a long day of anxiety.

Getting good healthy food can help. Stay away from caffeine and lot of sugar, both can make you jittery and cause a rise in your cortisol levels which can make you feel even more anxious. Caffeine that is in tea and coffee and soda pop can make your heeart raise and make your blood pressure go up as well, which in turns is not good for those with anxiety. Try drinking water, or adding some lemon or lime to your drinking water. Or make a pitcher of water, add sliced cucumber and a few fresh mint leaves and leave it in the fridge, for a refreshing lightly flavored water (they serve this at spas a lot). Try a sugar-free flavored bottled water like Hint (which is my favorite). Try to stay away from super sugary foods and high-carb foods, as carbs turn to sugar, and sugar tastes goooood but is bad for our anxiety. Try snacking on plain yogurt, almond butter on top of a banana, a handful of almonds or your favorite nuts, string cheese, fresh veggies, a piece of fruit, a green smoothie (try 1/2 cup water, half a banana – you can freeze the other half for tomorrow’s smoothie, 1/2 blueberries – frozen works well, and a big handful of fresh greens like kale, baby spinach, and swiss chard, blend until smooth). Plus, when we eat healthy, and we feel like were making better food choices, it can make us feel better both physically and mentally. It doesn’t mean you can’t have a cookie or piece of chocolate when you need it though! Go for it.

I’m not a huge fan of exercising, unless it’s something fun like dancing or doing something outdoors like surfing or hiking, but any kind of physical activity can be good (yes, even sex or masturbation). It can make you feel good, and it releases endorphins the love/happy chemical in your body. Do something simple! Even if it’s just walking, or a few sit ups, or just do something active at least once a day if you lead a sedentary lifestyle. I know, sometimes we just don’t have the energy! I hear you. I often feel that way too. But even doing something small can be a big help. Even just walking around the block a few times, or walking for a little bit on the treadmill or even stretching and doing a few push-ups! No need to do a full workout – simple steps, one at a time.

 

Simple steps. One. At. A. Time. Getting through one day at a time. Let’s do this. And I’m here for you, if you need me. Just hit me up via email or social media.

 

 

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Illuminati Waxworks Fall Scents Available Now

October 10th, 2017 @ Amber

My favorite candle and home fragrance brand, Illuminati Waxworks, has just re-released their fall/winter scents that are limited edition and only available from October to December. The scents are beautiful and rich and warming, perfect for the crisp of the Fall months and the colder Winter months. Samhain candle  smells complex and spicy with notes of rich real pumpkin and woodsmoke and is ideal for Halloween and Thanksgiving. Mulled Cider candle is warming and soothing with notes of fresh juicy red apple, cinnamon and spicy clove which makes it ideal for the colder weather of Fall and Winter. Scents are available in goldtone tin sizes as well as black glass tumbler sizing. They’re pretty, smell fantastic, and are limited edition, so hurry and try them if you haven’t! This is the only candle brand that I burn regularly.

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Review: Scantilly Entwine

October 10th, 2017 @ Amber

Hot damn. This lingerie set from Scantilly is so sizzling hot. The funny thing about loving lingerie is that someone you immediately fall for a set, and other times it takes you a moment to really ponder and decide. For me, I liked the design of the brand new Scantilly Entwine set, but I wasn’t totally intoxicated by it enough to own it. Thennnnnn, as so often happens, I saw it on a fellow lingerie blogger and that was it. I needed it. I was so silly to have overlooked it at first. This bra oozes sexiness. It almost has a shoulder bra style, with lightly padded cups, with soft sheer stretchy polyblend on top, with rosegold findings and a ribbon corset style tie-up at the center gore going upward turning this into a high-neck style bra. The 3-part cup offers a loft of lift and support and a beautiful shape, and the material of the bra feels so damn soft and smooth. The bra itself is very comfortable, and I love the ribbon ties in the center, you can unloop the ribbon and leave it open, or tie it up tight which gives you an even more pulled together look and offers extra cleavage. There is a small Scantilly rosegold logo circle disc charm at the center gore. I love how this bra looks on, and it feels great, looks so fun, and it actually gives me a really great shape and I love the way this bra works with my breast tissue type and breast shape. The bra is the bees knees. There is a matching lace up knicker that I was swooning over, with a lace up over your butt in the back, but I ended up getting the high-waisted thong, which features a lace up detail at the top back of the thong, but it isn’t open like the lace up brief. I definitely should have gotten then lace up brief, but maybe I can get that brief as an exact matching panty for this set. This bra fits true to size in the cup, and perhaps a bit generous in the band but not too much. The panties run true to size but offer a lot of stretch, so it hugs your curves really well. Unf! This set is so scrumptious. I would love to see this set come out in new colorways in future collections, thats how much I like the look and fit of this bra.

You can find the Scantilly Entwine Bra and matching High Waist Thong or Lace Up Brief at Scantilly by Curvy Kate!

 

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Review: Scantilly Peek a Boo in Black

October 10th, 2017 @ Amber

Scantilly, oh Scantilly. How do I love thee? A fucking lot. I’m such a huge fan of Curvy Kate’s sister-brand Scantilly. Scantilly is like CK’s older more sexy sophisticated sister, and while the brand offers the same great fit for fuller busts, it boasts sexy styles that we often don’t see in the full bust market. I generally wear a 32FF/G (UK) bra size right now, and I often find myself lusting after sexy little bra sets that just aren’t available in my size. While the fullbust market has had a big upsurge over the past few years and new brands offering fuller bust sizes has been coming out on the regular, my main qualm is that we don’t see a lot of sexy skimpy styles that are well made and feature quality materials. We get a lot of solid colors, lined lace cups, and florals. This is why I like Scantilly so much, the collection is full of pieces that make me feel hot when I wear them. They’re lusty and naughty if you want them to be, and usually thats what I want my lingerie to be. Scantilly is one of the few brands that I’m a regular customer of. Their first collection consisted of a cute set called Peek a Boo in black, which has been a steady seller in their line up in new collections ever since. Though each new season has brought a new colorway of Scantilly Peek a Boo, the classic black has remained a classic from the brand. The set offers black sheer mesh cups, with a black satin sweetheart style wrap gathering at the bottom of the bust. No bow at the center gore, and instead there is the signature rose-gold Scantilly logo circle charm. The matching panty is available in a variety of styles, but I’m most drawn to the Bare Face panty, which offers a big ouvert opening along the butt. The matching suspender belt is made of the stretch satin, and is both comfortable and basic, while really bringing the entire set together to form a cohesive look.

In my experience, Scantilly runs true to size if not a bit large in the band, and small in the cup, usually. Though it can depend upon the style, unlined, padded, etc. The panties and suspenders are only available in S-XL, so I normally wear a XS bottom, but I go with the smallest size available which is the Small. It does fit but there is a bit of stretch, so if they offered the size I would definitely go with a XS. The brief is super comfy, and the ouvert back is so much fun. There is a little mesh panel at the front of the panty, and a matching circle logo charm at the front waistband. While the back is open, the crotch is not, and there is a comfortable gusset. The suspender runs true to size (I go with the Small, since they are S-XL) and it offers a decent amount of stretch and it’s very comfortable with 4 garters so you can wear it with your favorite pair of stockings to complete the look. This set would be awesome for any time of year, but with the holiday season coming up, I love this for Christmas or New Year’s Eve lingerie. I got this set from the lovely folks at Large Cup Lingerie, which is one of my favorite lingerie boutiques. They are based in the UK but have free international shipping that is super fast and discreet. They also have great prices and carry wonderful full bust bras brands. Check them out and grab this Scantilly Peek a Boo set while you’re there!

 

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Review: Mimi Holliday Bisou Bisou Sherbet

October 10th, 2017 @ Amber

I’ve been a fan of the lovely Mimi Holliday brand for awhile now. A subbrand of the Damaris brand, this girly and sweet brand offers pretty designs and a few of them are available in fuller bust sizes. From the newest collection they offered their Bisou Bisou set in Sherbet, which was available in a G cup. I tend to wear a 32FF/G depending on the brand fit, and with Mimi Holliday I fit best in a size G. I love how this bra comes in a sweet soft pastel colors, of peach and yellow, it’s very candy floss inspired. Best of all, it features a pretty eyelash lace on the cups, without added padding or without a layer underneath the lace. I wish more fuller busts designs offered just bare lace cups, so I was really liking this design. The matching panties feature the same eyelash lace with a bow at the center waistband and a corset style lace up back on the booty. Very fun and flirty. The bra is a maxi bra, with 3 panels on the cups to offer added support. I tend to have heavier breast tissue, but I still found that it offered a naturally lifted shape. The panties are true to size. The fit was nice and the corset style on the back offers a cute peek of an ouvert style.

Super cute! Even the packaging is beautiful. A white gift bag tied up with a ribbon. The material feels soft and pretty against the skin, and the straps feature a little ribbon bow at the bottom of each strap. It offers a bit of support and some cleavage on me, probably would have had more if I had a more dense breast tissue. I really hope that Mimi Holliday continues to add some styles in fuller bust sizes, because I really like the cute designs and the lovely lace and colorways they offer. Highly recommended for those who are fullerbusted and looking for a more feminine and pretty design with unlined lace cups that we don’t always get in the fullbust market.

You can find Mimi Holliday on Instagram and Facebook

 

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Sacha Kimmes Eden Collection

October 7th, 2017 @ Amber

Indie lingerie designer Sacha Kimmes has just released her newest collection entitled Eden, which features a black and white colorway. Floral semi-sheer white lace with black edging and ribbons, the collection features an open cup bralette, bodysuit, skirted brief, knickers and ouvert panty and crop top. Sacha is a fantastic designer, I’m a big fan of her work, her excellent stitching and attention to detail and the fact that her collections are limited edition and usually made to order. She also offers a wide size range, and if she doesn’t carry your size, she can do a custom made to measurement piece if you contact her. Sacha is friendly, artistic, and always inspiring. The new Eden collection merges minimalist lines and gives it a cute upgrade with feminine floral lace and contrast black edging. Shop the collection now and check out some of the photos from the lookbook below.

 

 

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Freya Lingerie’s New Podcast

October 6th, 2017 @ Amber

Have you check out the brand new podcast from Freya Lingerie? It’s called ‘When Life Gives You Melons’ and it talks about boobs, body, sex and topics for women. The podcast just had it’s first episode and is available for download on iTunes and Android. Each episode they talk to women and get down to the nitty gritty. It’s a fun podcast so far, and each new episode is available on Wednesday. You can subscribe and check out the podcast on iTunes or Android now!

 

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Maude Nibelungen Grey Area Collection

October 6th, 2017 @ Amber

The new collection from Maude Nibelungen is so beautiful. Her knit pieces are unlike anything else on the market. The new collection is called Grey Area, and the lookbook is so pretty and stylistic, with our very own fellow lingerie blogger Comics Girls Need Bras as the model! The minimalist design is very modern and is made of knit fibers that look both soft and sensuous, lightweight and comfortable. Maude artistic voice shines through in this collection, which merges black yarn that is artfully knit to create both exquisite texture and design. I also like that these pieces work well with women of any size. I was so curious how Maude’s work would work with a fuller bust, so I was thrilled to see in this lookbook. I like that the collection can be layered together or worn alone or with other pieces in your collection. The work can be layered and worn as outerwear fashion as well as boudoir wear. Check out some of the photos below and then check out the collection to add some of these unique handmade items to your collection.

 

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Dottie’s Delights Cascade Collection

October 2nd, 2017 @ Amber

Indie lingerie brand Dottie’s Delights has just released their newest collection entitled “Cascade”. The collection consists of beautiful bralettes, bras, suspender belts, tap pants and more. The designs themselves are made of gorgeous silk and lace, creating truly lovely silhouettes. The inspiration comes from the 1970s style cut and colors along with 1930’s style deco. The merging of two different eras creates a really unique and stylish aesthetic full of interesting prints, including an incredible robe. Check out the entire new collection at Dottie’s Delights, and check out some of the photos from the new collection below. Which are your favorites?